Self Esteem Specialist

The Soho Center for Mental Health Counseling

Psychotherapy Services located in New York City, NY

Self-esteem governs your life in obvious and not-so-obvious ways, but there’s no getting around the fact that it greatly affects how you make your way through your world. At the Soho Center for Mental Health Counseling, Anthony Freire, MA, LMHC, NCC, CCMHC, Kate Engstrom, LCSW, Kelley Hershman, LMHC, and their team help patients in the Greenwich Village of New York City area who are grappling with self-esteem issues and support their emotional and mental well-being. To learn more, call or use the online scheduling tool.

Self-Esteem Q & A


What is self-esteem?

Self-esteem is often thought of as confidence, but it can go much deeper. Your self-esteem is your sense of worth, which greatly affects how you interact with the world, what your expectations are, and what you feel you deserve. Self-esteem can go to extremes in both directions: High self-esteem leads to an unearned sense of entitlement and the inability to admit to or learn from mistakes.

Low self-esteem, on the other hand, leaves you feeling like a failure and unworthy of even the smallest rewards or acts of kindness. Low self-esteem can go a step further and lead you into bad situations where you feel you deserve to be treated poorly.

What are the signs of self-esteem issues?

The signs of low self-esteem are varied and numerous and affect almost every area of your life. While everyone displays low self-esteem differently, there are some hallmarks of the problem, including:

Feeling self-conscious

If you spend an inordinate amount of time wondering about what others think of you and worrying that others find you less than desirable, these are signs of low self-esteem. This often leads to feeling uncomfortable in your own skin or like you’re never enough.

Relationship obsessing

If you have low self-esteem, you struggle with relationships. Because of your deep sense of worthlessness, you obsess about your relationships and work overtime to keep them going. This often has the opposite effect, smothering the other person. You take the blame when you shouldn’t and maintain poor boundaries.


If you’re faced with a challenge, you respond by throwing up your hands in defeat because you believe you don’t have what it takes.


If you find it hard to be decisive, even about small things, this is a classic sign of low self-esteem.

How are self-esteem issues treated?

The therapists at The Soho Center for Mental Health Counseling & Clinical Supervision use a number of cognitive therapies to help you overcome self-esteem issues, including:

  • Dialectical behavior therapy
  • Acceptance and commitment therapy
  • Gestalt therapy
  • Compassion-focused therapy
  • Mindfulness
  • Solution-focused therapy
  • Motivational interviewing
  • Positive psychology
  • Interpersonal psychotherapy

Your therapist works with you to establish your sense of self-worth so that you can lead a happier, more successful life.

To gain the upper hand on low self-esteem issues, call the Soho Center for Mental Health Counseling & Clinical Supervision or request a consultation using the online scheduling tool.